Ed readies for his daily commute to San Francisco, where he works as a
database architect for Wells Fargo. Each morning,
he wakes his daughter and makes her breakfast before turning over child-care
duties to Ed. When Kiki is having a difficult morning, he confesses
sheepishly, 'sometimes I feel awfully happy to get out of the house.'
Daily Life in a Same-Sex Marriage Together for 18 years, Ed
Valenzuela and Gary Walker live with their adopted daughter on a tree-lined
street in family-filled Berkeley neighborhood. Last February, they joined the
more than 4,000 same-sex couples who seized the chance to marry at San
Francisco City Hall. The product of an activist mayor, the weddings were
halted by state courts a month later, and eventually invalidated. But saying
'I Do' was an experience the couple still treasures.' 'For me, it was
about Kiki, as everything always is,' says Ed, a 45-year-old homemaker.
'So that she would have the experience' of us getting married.... She
knows that we have a certificate and she was there and she saw it and she
knows what she was wearing. And whenever' we put on suits she says, 'Oh,
you look like you're getting married.' '